It’s not OK

It’s time we dig ourselves out of this rut!!!


It’s not ok to accept unhappiness and defeat. It’s not ok to wake up without purpose, motivation, and something to look forward too. It’s just not ok. In the middle of the storm, it can be so hard to see that the sun is shining somewhere else. We invest so much into our careers, school, friends, and relationships that the thought of change is paralyzing. The thought of all you have invested not being there is a chilling one. But in our hearts, we know that not making a change isn’t how we want to live the rest of our lives. Personally, I have so many dreams, goals, and ambitions that have never been achieved. Far too often I wake up and forget that I have a choice just as you do. We can get busy living in the rut we created or we can get busy digging our way out.

What about all the things you’ve built or achieved in your current endeavors? You may not be happy but you can’t just throw in the towel, can you? There may be a few ways to look at this. Are you really losing anything? All that experience will still be with you no matter what you do. Memories don’t disappear just because you move on. You may not have a corner office but you also may not wake up dreading your day either. No matter what we choose to do there will be challenges and I’m not talking about giving up when it gets hard. That might be the best time to double down but when you look in the mirror we both know that being challenged and being unhappy is not the same.

If you are at the point where you know there only one direction for you to go make damn sure you take it. Don’t accept the pain, misery or sadness of settling. We only get one chance on this planet and every day you don’t at least push toward your dream is a day lost. Whether you are 15, 45 or 75 you still have days that are precious in the tank. Let’s not let them go to waste.

Sometimes you just have to make up your own rules

So If you want to be my personal Jesus then go right ahead.

I’m happy but couldn’t be less satisfied. Does that make any sense? I doubt everyone will understand. I make the choices I make for a complex set of reasons I share with no one. What you care about I simply don’t. The things that put a smile on your face bore me. The things society says I should need are things that I simply reject. I don’t consider myself to be weird or someone who is trying to buck the system or even draw attention to myself. Sometimes you just have to make up your own rules

I will have what I want. I will get that which is deserved to be it good or bad. Until then, like most of you, my patience will wear thin as I sit patiently waiting. Little does anyone know that I don’t have an ounce of patience in my bones? That’s why I struggle with satisfaction. It is also what drives me to toss “important” things to the side in pursuit of what I want.

LIke the song goes “my give a damn busted”. I have no time or energy to compromise anymore. Time changes things and time has changed me. I don’t crave approval like I used to. I don’t give a shit about what you think I should want or need or do. I just don’t care because nine times out of ten those things lead down a road I’m not traveling. I haven’t been on that path in years. I’ve made too many mistakes to not have learned that doing for doing’s sake is a fool’s errand. I see others all around me running on the wheel like a hampster and decide to take a rain check.

So If you want to be my personal Jesus then go right ahead. I won’t stop you. Part of me might even be flattered that you care. Just don’t be surprised when I don’t play along because I’ve already been talking to Jesus all my life and he’s been telling me everything is going to be alright.

That is the question to your answer

Are you living the dream? I bet some of you are and you don’t even know it. For others of you, you maybe are just dreaming while you live. You’re just going through the motions of your earthly existence. You are sitting still hoping your bank account grows fatter and your state of mind shifts from pessimism to optimism.
Who can you blame? We are all adults and fully aware that life is hard enough. We could all do without having to take responsibility for ourselves. It’s possible that some of you have it all together that this is all foreign to you. If that’s the case then you can skip the rest of the post because we are only going further down the rabbit hole.
So what if you are in between and you think you have it all together but you aren’t entirely happy like something is missing? You have the perfect job (you think), you have a loving spouse (you think). If you have kids you believe that you are bringing them up the best you can. You spend time with them and they agree. You have hobbies and have a great way to escape the repetitiveness of daily life.
This is a blog about questions as much as answers so let’s ask some of those questions? Let’s start with your job, career, work or whatever it is you call it. Do you look forward to Mondays? Do you feel like you are satisfied on an emotional level? Maybe you make a good salary but is it truly worth it when you look forward to doing this for years or decades to come?
Let’s shift gears and chat or just question our friendships. Are you happy with your social circle? Do you have friends that positive influence that bring you up and that are there 5826473968_b31f5ef286_ofor you when you need them? Do you spend most of your time listening to them complain? Is it all one sided where there’s a lot of giving but no taking?
Hows that relationship treating you? Do you have a partner for life? Would they take a bullet for you, would you for them? Do they make you smile and do you miss them when they’re gone? When you lay down at night when you are alone with your thoughts are you in love or are you in love with not being alone?
This all sounds like we are talking in extremes and are cognizant that life doesn’t work that way. Some days will be harder than others no matter how ideal the situation is. We are talking about this in the broader sense. So the thing to ponder here isn’t all the questions and how we didn’ t give you answers. No, the thing to ponder is how we gave you a bunch of questions you didn’t want to ask and most likely already knew the answer too.